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The ever-growing Pagay family is made up of parents Duane and Lyn, and their keiki (clockwise, from top) <\/strong>Micah, Jaidee, Jaida and Jaiden. Not pictured are the couple’s 15 foster children.<\/p><\/div>\n

Love remains the driving force for Duane and Lyn Pagay, who are the proud parents of four children and 15 foster keiki.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Duane Pagay was at a crossroads. He was carrying a lot of pain from his past and knew that he was not only hurting himself with his actions, but his family as well.<\/p>\n

The Maui resident spent his childhood on L\u0101na\u2018i moving in and out of the foster care system. He was eventually reunited with his parents, but says that arrangement only made his life worse. Raised in an environment surrounded by the drug trade, he soon started committing street crimes, selling drugs himself, and eventually ended up in prison.<\/p>\n

\u201cBeing taken from bad times to go into foster care taught me to run from my problems,\u201d he states. \u201cAnd, being taken from foster care, where everything was going good and getting better, and having to go back to the abuse, taught me to sabotage myself when my life was going good or it made me think that I had to mess up for my life to be normal.\u201d<\/p>\n

Despite the bleak circumstances he found himself in, he was determined to change. Part of that involved owning up to his own poor decisions.<\/p>\n

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Duane and Lyn Pagay are the parents of four children and 15 foster keiki.<\/p><\/div>\n

\u201cGoing through the process of self-healing and to better myself was very hard and hurtful at the same time, because I had to learn to hold myself accountable for all of my mistakes as an adult,\u201d he says.<\/p>\n

It was during this time of personal transformation that Duane met his wife, Jonahlyn, or Lyn as she is known. Soon, the couple would choose a direction that would lead them to fostering 15 children, in addition to caring for their own four keiki.<\/p>\n

Their first opportunity on this new path came when they were asked to take care of a relative’s baby. Thankfully, the Pagays didn’t hesitate in making that decision.<\/p>\n

\u201cFamily means everything to me,\u201d explains Lyn. \u201cSo, if I can help a family, I will try my best, especially in situations like this \u2014 to care, support and love on the child. Not only the child, but their parents as well.\u201d<\/p>\n

Duane agrees, saying,\u201cIt was an awesome feeling knowing that we were there for a child in a time of need, and to be able to help a family get the help they needed in a dark time.\u201d<\/p>\n

When the baby boy was reunited with his parents, Lyn admits to having mixed feelings.<\/p>\n

\u201cHonestly, it was very hard, as baby came to us at 2 months old,\u201d she reveals. \u201cBut then again, it was a great feeling knowing that he got to be with his parents again.\u201d<\/p>\n

Seeing how well that experience went for the Pagays inspired Mary Leyva, a community liaison with Partners in Development Foundation, whose Hui Ho\u2018omalu program recruits and guides prospective resource caregivers through the foster care licensing process.<\/p>\n

\u201cThe Pagays appeared so welcoming and caring for all children; and at the HANAI training, Duane disclosed that he himself had been in foster care in a general home,\u201d recalls Leyva, adding that she encouraged the couple to switch their child-specific license to a general foster license. \u201cAfter he shared that, I expressed to him and Lyn how relating to children in foster care could be positive.\u201d<\/p>\n

Now a new road presented itself, one in which the couple could provide for keiki the love and guidance that Duane lacked in his childhood.<\/p>\n

\u201cDuane and I came to an agreement that we wanted to continue to be there for these children and let them know that they are loved and wanted,\u201d Lyn adds.<\/p>\n

Since that fateful decision to become foster parents, the Pagays have welcomed 15 foster keiki into their home to join three of their own children: 19-yearold Micah, 11-year-old Jaiden and 9-year-old Jaida. The couple also recently adopted 2-year-old Jaidee.<\/p>\n

\u201cShe was just 9 days old and has been with us ever since,\u201d Duane states.<\/p>\n

For the Pagays, fostering so many children is worth the sacrifice because of the love they have for these keiki and their personal circumstances.<\/p>\n

(According to Partners in Development Foundation, a nonprofit that uses Native Hawaiian values and traditions to equip families and communities for service, there are approximately 1,500 children in foster care on any given day in Hawai\u2018i. These youths often experience a greater rate of homelessness, sex exploitation, drug and alcohol abuse, and incarceration.)<\/p>\n

Duane insists that he’s always felt the safest and the most love when he was in foster care. That same loving and secure environment is what he seeks to provide for the children in his care.<\/p>\n

The Pagays acknowledge that the path they’re on is not without its bumps, but they are grateful to be navigating the road together.<\/p>\n

With both Duane and Lyn working full-time \u2014 he’s employed at Maui Beach Vacation Club and she is an elementary school teacher at Ka\u2018ahumanu Hou Christian School \u2014 Lyn credits a structured home and schedule for maintaining balance between jobs and family time.<\/p>\n

\u201cYes, fostering is a huge commitment,\u201d Duane admits, adding that finding that sweet spot in parenting is easier because of the rewards and support he receives.<\/p>\n

\u201cI just accept it all as a whole and say, \u2018This is my family and I am going to do all that I can to make them happy,’\u201d he continues. \u201cI focus on the smiles I will get when I get home. We all do it as a team; we all do it together.\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cI’m very proud of Duane. He is a very supportive, caring, and loving husband and father. We both try to do everything together around the house \u2014 well except cooking. He is the cook; I don’t really cook,\u201d Lyn says with a laugh.<\/p>\n

The family makes the most of their time together, enjoying bike rides and playing outside or just watching movies. Duane says that he’s happy just doing whatever the kids happen to be interested in.<\/p>\n

\u201cI love watching them have fun, smiling and enjoying themselves as children,\u201d he notes.<\/p>\n

The Pagays typically foster three children at a time, and they encourage others to explore opening their homes to children in need of a home.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou can expect to give love and feel loved from someone you never knew,\u201d Duane opines. \u201cI get to be involved in a childhood I never had and to give and express love for all of them.\u201d<\/p>\n

He says that his growth as a person continues through his journey as a foster parent as well. And, he gets to share with the keiki all the affirmations he didn’t get during his own childhood.<\/p>\n

\u201cThroughout the whole experience, the good stuff I get to tell my kids is that I love them, that they are doing an awesome job, and that life wouldn’t be this amazing without them,\u201d he finalizes. \u201cAnd, I am very proud of them.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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